When a temper tantrum strikes, especially in public, a parent’s natural
response may be to console and do whatever they can to end it.
They might try negotiating or reasoning, which can be nearly impossible
with a toddler. In some cases, you might even consider bribery.
However, the more you try to console and negotiate, the more it will encourage
the behavior down the road.
The best ways to deal with tantrums is to ignore or distract.
Throwing a tempter tantrum is a normal stage that every toddler goes through.
As little people with big emotions, children at this stage are still learning
to express their desires and feelings in the right way.
Tantrums can be a result of vying for a parent’s attention or a protest
to not getting their way. Toddlers are practical and motivated, so they
experiment with ways to get what they want.
If crying works, they’ll learn to cry louder and longer when things
don’t go their way. If it’s screaming that seems to get the
attention they’re craving, that will become their go-to mode of
The more you simply ignore the tantrum, the more quickly your child will
realize that kicking and screaming is not the way to get what they want.
Yes, at first, they may test you.
They may cry harder, scream louder or flail more vigorously. Stay patient
and continue to adhere to the boundaries you have set.
Setting boundaries are healthy and important.
Define the rules of your home and family, and stick to them. If you waver,
that can be confusing for a child and usually leads to more outbursts.
In addition to not giving the tantrum attention, sometimes distracting
your child can put an end to the screaming.
You can distract with objects and even try pointing out interesting things
in your environment. Be careful about diverting their attention with food
because we don’t want children to become accustomed to relying on
food to console them.
In addition to these methods, ensuring your child is well-rested, properly
nourished and on a consistent schedule can help reduce the likelihood
for a meltdown.
This is good advice for parents to heed, as well. The more well-rested
and nourished you are, the more patient you will be and better equipped
to handle the challenges.